I have read a plethora of books dedicated to excellent parenting, unfortunately none of them seemed to work for my child. I have tried sticker charts, positive reinforcement, commando parenting, time-out chairs, time-outs in the bedroom, bribery, chore charts, behavior charts, monetary incentives, removing toys and yes, we even spanked once or twice, all to no avail.
Not one of those methods changed, even slightly, the behaviors we were battling with. We would discipline and as soon as the punishment was over my son would be right back where we started. If we took something away he would offer up more things for us to take, if we made sticker charts or progress reports he would cheat on them, draw on them or just generally ignore them. Time-outs went on for hours, bedroom time-outs resulted in broken hinges, bribery was met with a withering look and chore charts were mocked or ignored. The following programs I listed actually did have some positive impact on our parenting so I am putting them here – check out the links below.
All programs have positives and negatives, and I don’t believe any program works 100% of the time, anything can and should be tailored to your particular child’s personality and responses, but for us, these are 4 programs that I was able to use some part of to make a positive change to both our kids behavior.
Beyond Logic, consequences and control. Heather T Forbes
Celebrate Calm, Kirk and Casey Martin
Love and Logic, Jim Fay et al.
1,2,3, Magic Dr Thomas Phelan